I should clarify, I don’t currently live in BC anymore...sadly! It was so hard to leave out beautiful mountain home, but the heart had other plans. BC is so special and we will be back at some stage.
You know a funny thing happened to me today. I read your post and then read the post from @Elin Petronella, and I wrote to her saying I was excited about her being in BC. I stood corrected. BC is absolutely beautiful and wherever your heart has taken you, may you stay safe, healthy, happy and grow exponentially in Al, the precious and meaningful ways. 💕
This is so beautiful and also really sparks something in me... a sadness because I don’t always react in the way that father did with my own girls... and I really want to but sometimes (most of the time) I feel totally under resourced myself. I desperately want to prioritise being that soft safe place to land always but it feels far off a lot of the time. I’m constantly trying to figure out how to get there. Xxx
I have a feeling many can relate to your share. I truly believe that mothers are under resourced but not because of any perceived lack in themselves but because of the failed societal and structure of support for young families. When under resourced it makes sense that we lack capacity to attune because it’s just about survival much of the time. One thing I like to remember is that ruptures in all relationships are healthy and normal and I believe that it’s the repair process that people remember and in that repair process attunement is also happening. Sending you so much love and I’m grateful for your important share here.
Thank you lovely! I think this is where so much of my mother rage comes from... the fact that I know I’m not able to hold the way I wish and know to be true... because of such a lack of being held by the wider world as a mother. I’ve been unraveling this so much recently but the frustration is there that I really can’t do that much to change it. So I work on changing my inner environment as much as possible but then fall into the trap of holding even more pressure on myself. It’s a seemingly impossible situation at times!!! Xx
I am so excited that you live in BC. I lived in Calgary for 25 years. And planning on going back soon.
I should clarify, I don’t currently live in BC anymore...sadly! It was so hard to leave out beautiful mountain home, but the heart had other plans. BC is so special and we will be back at some stage.
You know a funny thing happened to me today. I read your post and then read the post from @Elin Petronella, and I wrote to her saying I was excited about her being in BC. I stood corrected. BC is absolutely beautiful and wherever your heart has taken you, may you stay safe, healthy, happy and grow exponentially in Al, the precious and meaningful ways. 💕
Thank you so much for your words, I am so grateful. May you have a gentle year, with love leading the way xx
This is so beautiful and also really sparks something in me... a sadness because I don’t always react in the way that father did with my own girls... and I really want to but sometimes (most of the time) I feel totally under resourced myself. I desperately want to prioritise being that soft safe place to land always but it feels far off a lot of the time. I’m constantly trying to figure out how to get there. Xxx
I have a feeling many can relate to your share. I truly believe that mothers are under resourced but not because of any perceived lack in themselves but because of the failed societal and structure of support for young families. When under resourced it makes sense that we lack capacity to attune because it’s just about survival much of the time. One thing I like to remember is that ruptures in all relationships are healthy and normal and I believe that it’s the repair process that people remember and in that repair process attunement is also happening. Sending you so much love and I’m grateful for your important share here.
Thank you lovely! I think this is where so much of my mother rage comes from... the fact that I know I’m not able to hold the way I wish and know to be true... because of such a lack of being held by the wider world as a mother. I’ve been unraveling this so much recently but the frustration is there that I really can’t do that much to change it. So I work on changing my inner environment as much as possible but then fall into the trap of holding even more pressure on myself. It’s a seemingly impossible situation at times!!! Xx
This makes so much sense, and yes that rage is real. And that’s just it, the inner environment and tending to that 🙌🏼.
What a remarkable response from that father, teaching is child so much in one brief moment. Attunement is so important and, at times, so tricky!
So much happening in such a small moment. It really was beautiful.