Hello wild ones, I hope you are keeping well and have been enjoying the holiday season (if you celebrate it) and for those who have been struggling this time of year, I see you, and my hope is that you have support along the way. This time of year is always tender for me as someone who lives very far away from my family, and this holiday season in particular has felt more difficult than previous ones - perhaps because I just spent months at home reuniting with my loved ones, creating memories, and getting used to their regular presence in my life. Regardless of the reason, it’s been tough and I have been letting myself meet each edge with a lot of compassion and space. While my heart feels the ache a little more this time of year, I am also finding joy in little glimmers along the way - the soft ripples of waves on the shoreline, the reflection of the sun setting, and the sound of bird calls overhead. I hope you, too, can find some of your own glimmers each day that bring you comfort, peace, or ease.
I’d love a conversation about this dear Laurita. As someone that always recognises various opinions and perspectives, I tend to struggle with expressing my opinion not because I am not brave enough to share vulnerably or honestly (just read my early list Dare Me and you find me very raw and honest and I’ve always been), but actually it’s hard for me to KNOW My opinion - maybe because I have not only the ability to see so many but also a trauma response of actually listening to myself instead? Interesting to ponder! As soon as I have a stand I’ll happily take it but discerning what truly is mine is tricky - on top of that: knowing that things constantly change and evolve! So how do we with such high ambitions of integrity truly share strong opinions, knowing it all is changing anyway or simply a point of view? Knowledge and wisdom in my case truly became a way how my ego blocks my road. It’s like my subconscious protector uses it against me to prevent me from really listening g inward and to potentially disagree/displease others.
In my case it’s def a practice of being ok with doing things „wrong“.
Very nuanced topic and I loved how you wrote about it!
Oh this is such a great point - how can we express ourselves honestly when we don't yet KNOW what our opinions, beliefs, or perspectives are. Discerning between our own inner voice and that of others that we have perhaps been conditioned to adopt is a journey. I can't help but think about the ways in which I was gaslighted at times in my earlier years and in turn internally gaslighted myself as a result - familiar territory after all, I suppose. And to your second point - remaining in integrity knowing things constantly change - that's just it, acknowledging what we believe or think now and owning that we can change our minds too, we are always growing and so do our opinions, so even if we take a bold stand now about a particular topic, we can take the pressure off ourselves to forever hold a certain view and remember we are human, we are allowed to get things wrong, and we can most certainly change our mind at any point. Such a nuanced topic, which I am here for - more nuance and context always. So excited to connect with you in the cabin xx
I’d love a conversation about this dear Laurita. As someone that always recognises various opinions and perspectives, I tend to struggle with expressing my opinion not because I am not brave enough to share vulnerably or honestly (just read my early list Dare Me and you find me very raw and honest and I’ve always been), but actually it’s hard for me to KNOW My opinion - maybe because I have not only the ability to see so many but also a trauma response of actually listening to myself instead? Interesting to ponder! As soon as I have a stand I’ll happily take it but discerning what truly is mine is tricky - on top of that: knowing that things constantly change and evolve! So how do we with such high ambitions of integrity truly share strong opinions, knowing it all is changing anyway or simply a point of view? Knowledge and wisdom in my case truly became a way how my ego blocks my road. It’s like my subconscious protector uses it against me to prevent me from really listening g inward and to potentially disagree/displease others.
In my case it’s def a practice of being ok with doing things „wrong“.
Very nuanced topic and I loved how you wrote about it!
Also signed up for the cabin❤️🔥
Oh this is such a great point - how can we express ourselves honestly when we don't yet KNOW what our opinions, beliefs, or perspectives are. Discerning between our own inner voice and that of others that we have perhaps been conditioned to adopt is a journey. I can't help but think about the ways in which I was gaslighted at times in my earlier years and in turn internally gaslighted myself as a result - familiar territory after all, I suppose. And to your second point - remaining in integrity knowing things constantly change - that's just it, acknowledging what we believe or think now and owning that we can change our minds too, we are always growing and so do our opinions, so even if we take a bold stand now about a particular topic, we can take the pressure off ourselves to forever hold a certain view and remember we are human, we are allowed to get things wrong, and we can most certainly change our mind at any point. Such a nuanced topic, which I am here for - more nuance and context always. So excited to connect with you in the cabin xx